For months, I couldn’t bear the word “bromance” without rolling my eyes in disgust. Articles like this one were some of the offenders. Why was I so put off by men having guy time with their buds?
It took me some time to sort all this out, but I finally did - at the movies.
Male-oriented comedies have been everywhere in recent years. And since I love movies, I’ve seen a lot of them. There’s a question of life imitating art or art imitating life that I won’t delve into too much, but film is often a high-profile participant in cultural discourse. And what we’re seeing in these stories are men, their problems, and their friendships, all couched in some variation of the of men-behaving-badly ethos: the bromance, once an innocent enough expression of male bonding and friendship, has gained such traction in our culture as to become a prescriber of and apologist for bad behavior. This aspect of the bromance trend bothered me so much because these behaviors ultimately hurt women, though in recent films that hurt has rarely been shown, let alone examined.